1. What lesson(s) are to be learned from this book?The lesson I liked best (not necessarily the one Brooks' meant for us to learn) was the admirable ways in which the Mompellions faced the challenges of living in isolation. That the right way to meet adversity is through increasing how much you give.
2. why do we isolate ourselvesTrust. Sometimes for good reasons, sometimes for bad, but it's always because we don't trust others. A lot of my technical research recently has focused on how social networks are structured, and something I've noticed just recently is that two similar networks can be very different in how quickly changes in one place effect people in another (cf. homophily). As the modularity (i.e. isolation) of the network increases, so does the time it takes for things to propagate from one node to all the others. This is great if the "thing" is a disease, but less great if the "thing" is an idea or innovation.
3. freedom lost with marriage?Riffing off my response to the previous question, we always lose freedom when we chose to trust. The more we depend on others, and allow them to depend on us, the more constrained by responsibility our actions become. For me personally, I agree with Alvin that I felt a greater loss of freedom with children than with marriage; I think that's because a parent's relationship with their children is asymmetric, while a marriage relationship is more symmetric.
Thinking about my grandparents, I'm impressed by the example of my Grandmother Jones. Grandpa became an invalid around the time he was 45 as a result of some kind of muscular dystrophy. Grandma took on the care of my Grandpa and the material support of the family. For 40 years, she gave he time and energy (and freedom) to supporting and caring for my Grandpa. So, in some circumstances a marriage can represent a huge loss of freedom. But with the added responsibility came a sense of purpose and a "gaining her own life" even to the point that when Grandpa died and Grandma lost that purpose, her quality of life deteriorated. Of course, I may be misremembering things, since they both died before I was an adult, but I would say that the loss of freedom was more than compensated by an increase in purpose and fulfillment.
4. How did your view of the rector change after you learned the secrets of his marriage?My view of the rector had already changed so dramatically as a result of his sexualizing his relationship with Anna that the chaste marriage didn't phase me much.
5. why do some trials seem to erode faith in some people and build faith for othersThe pride cycle tends to indicate that trials will generally lead to greater reliance on the Lord (interesting considering Alvin's point about none of the town inhabitants being stengthened in their faith due to the trial). But such strengthening will only persist if it is further established by the testimony of the Holy Ghost. In this way, trials are similar to miracles, and all other non-Holy Ghost-based evidences; they may lead one to greater faith, but that increased faith will dissipate rapidly with the ending of the trial (or miracle) if it isn't accompanied by the deeper spiritual evidences that the Spirit brings.
As for why some people react one way to trials, and others in another, I think it's due to models we have of the world. If we have a model that God loves us and won't allow us to suffer, trials are likely to lead to a decrease in faith. If we believe that God loves us but that suffering is part of his plan, trials may lead to an increase in faith. Having the correct model is the key (it's all about the conditional distribution in Bayes' rule).
6. what are your thoughts about the mental and spiritual unravelling of the village over the course of the yearI was actually surprised there wasn't a greater degree of unraveling. The bulk of the village continued as they had been; in a few instances, anti-social behavior increased. But by in large I think Brooks underestimated the degree to which isolation, and the hopelessness resulting from the seemingly unstoppable plague, would have led to a wholesale break-down in the social fabric of the community. I would have expected a lot more lawlessness.
7. what do you say to those who are mourning?One of my favorite scenes in the movies I've recently watched was in Lars and the Real Girl (very nice movie, for those looking for something quirky and independent), in which after a tragedy the people of this small town (Minnesotan? North Dakotan?) come to sit with the protagonist. Here's an excerpt from the dialogue:
Hazel: Well that's how life is, Lars.
Mrs. Gruner: Everything at once.
Sally: We brought casseroles.
Lars Lindstrom: Thank you.
Lars Lindstrom: [Lars looks around the sewing circle. The three ladies are knitting and doing needlepoint] Um, is there something I should be doing right now?
Mrs. Gruner: No, dear. You eat.
Sally: We came over to sit.
Hazel: That's what people do when tragedy strikes.
Sally: They come over, and sit.
I really liked this, because I think it emphasizes that there's seldom anything to be said in times of sorrow and loss. Often, the only thing to be done is to sit, to hold a hand, to bring a casserole, and to let those who are grieving know you care through giving your time and attention.
8. why the epilogue? The story would have ended well for me with her galloping away from the village on the horse.The story would have ended better for me if it had stopped before Anna and Mompellion's relationship became sexual. I felt that the flow of the story after that point had a very different voice than before; I think Brooks wanted to end with a message about liberation, but I don't think the message was continuous with the rest of the novel.
Charitably, I can view the novel as a metaphor for a pessimistic view (IMO) of human development. We grow upin awe of our parents (the Mompellions, in this metaphor); whatever they ask, we do (except those rebellious older siblings, the Bradfords). But eventually we awaken to our own individuality, our own desires (in this sense Elinor's death can be seen as being Freudian) and our parents' fallabiility. Eventually we make our own way in the world.
But if I were to rewrite the last 70 or so pages, I would de-sexualize the Anna/Mompellion relationship but maintain their mutual attraction, particularly following her shaking him out of her stupor. I would keep her riding away with the child, which would be truly tragic because of the nascent love between her & Mompellion. And she would still have to avoid any further contact with the village, and so would sacrifice her love to save a life. If there were an epilogue, it would be her living in Italy and unexpectedly uncountering the rector from the next village over, who doesn't recognize her but visits as two Englishmen abroad. In the course of their chatting, he would reveal that Mompellion led the town still, but that despite his faithfulness his heart seemed far away. The rector would presume it was because of the loss of Elinor, but Anna would know the truth. This is all romantic to the point of being maudlin, but I think it would have been a more satisfying ending for me personally.